Why Shame Feels Like Identity
The shift from "I AM a failure" to "I failed" - one unclenches its death grip. Where does that shift live?
Psychologist
Priyamvada
Tendulkar
I work at the intersection of language, emotion, and identity. Where the old self meets the new. Where something unclenches its grip.
“The shift from "I AM a failure" to "I failed" - one unclenches its death grip. Where does that shift live?”
The Work
I meet people at threshold points. The space between the comfortable old self and the unready new one.
Events & Speaking
Workshops, panels, and talks on the psychology of transformation.
Workshop: Language, Shame & Identity
Exploring how a single reframe in the right emotional moment can restructure a belief system.
Speaking: The Psychology of Threshold Moments
On the space between the old self and the new one, and what tips the balance.
About
I trained for the Indian civil services, then walked away. The system wanted compliance; I wanted to understand why people break, and what happens after. Psychology was the only honest answer.
My work sits at the intersection of REBT, psychodynamic thought, and an obsession with the exact moment something shifts. I study threshold points: the breath between "I can't" and "maybe I can try."
I believe words shape how we interpret experience, but their deepest power emerges when they meet us in moments of intense emotion. That is where a shift in language becomes a shift in belief, and eventually, in identity.
Approach
REBTPsychodynamicExistentialNarrative
Let's Talk
Whether you are looking for therapy, want to book me for an event, or just want to start a conversation, reach out.